As I come up on 5 years of being celibate, don’t know the exact date, I’m reflecting on why I went celibate and the covenant I made with God when I did. First I can’t believe that it’s been 5 years, in a “wow time flies” way and a “bring on the husband Jesus” way lol. I won’t say that it’s easy being celibate but I think God has helped me and protected me a long the way.
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24 There are a lot of scriptures that talk about sex being meant for a husband and a wife and I feel that God reveals to us in time through His word and our revelation what is right in His eyes. In the beginning of my last relationship I didn’t think much of premarital sex, I thought like most it was an “outdated” practice. During that relationship God revealed to me that it was not an “outdated” practice and that every word in His book rings true today as it did when it was written. So, I spoke to my then boyfriend and we decided to be celibate. It didn’t quite work because as you can imagine it was hard to be celibate with someone I already had sex with and we were also living together. So I celibacy was very on and off. So once we broke up I decided my next relationship would start off with celibacy. It would be easier to not know what I was missing, not tempt myself to easily fall back into old patterns and old ways. I wanted to honor God in my next relationship by putting Him first and honoring His word.
Shortly after I went to church and heard a sermon on Soul Ties. Soul Ties, the idea that certain actions, usually sex, can connect you to a person and cause you to bond in a way that is not easily broken. So basically that you can stop having sex with someone but still be connected with them. Soul Ties are the main reason sex is to be with a husband and wife. In this sermon we also talked about our nakedness being for our future spouse and God. I had never thought about honoring my future husband before, only God. But it made sense, in honoring God I was also honoring my future husband by saving myself for him and our marriage.
To honor God is to honor my future husband and ultimately honor myself. I pray today for my future husband on his journey to find me and that God continues to guide my path towards them both. Celibacy wasn’t the easy choice but the right choice for me.
P.S. I put on my Instagram a few months back tat I was 3 years celibate. I clearly don’t know how to count or what year it was but I’ve been celibate since 2013. Maybe that’s where the 3 came from, *insert shoulder shrug emoji*
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